In less than an hour I received a text message from two different people, with a link to the same blog post. Now, just by the title alone, “Why ALL MEN CHEAT on Loyal Women”, I was over it. The title was definitely misleading though. Keep in mind, this isn’t a direct response to Mr. Aseem’s verbose blog-post; but it was definitely inspired by it. While I halfway agree with the “we know we don’t deserve a loyal woman” notion, I don’t agree with the initial logic presented. ‘I don’t deserve her and she knows it. She’s probably plotting to leave me as I think this thought so let me just slip my penis into any chick I see’. Oh yea, because that makes ALL the sense in the world.
A few years ago, Tyrese did an appearance at my Alma Mater, Howard University to promote his book “How to Get Out of Your Own Way”. In a nutshell, he said that all men cheat, but women shouldn’t “own” the cheat because a lot of the time, it isn’t her fault; pretty much the same point that Mr. Aseem makes when he says: “How a male treats a woman is NOT a reflection of HER worth.” (I’m gonna try to ignore the fact that he somewhat contradicts himself throughout the rest of his post, but whatever). My point is…If you want to be single, BE SINGLE. SOME men are full of so many excuses for their unacceptable behavior and half of the problem is that too many women are accepting of the BS excuses and unacceptable behavior. Ladies, “cheat days” and “passes” should only be used in reference to your diets. The whole “just don’t ever let me find out about it” thing, yea..uh NO. Shorty DON’T swing my way with that ish, because it’s JUST. NOT. ACCEPTABLE. And guys, JUST because there are chicks accepting of your foolishness doesn’t mean you should carry on as such. You know better, so why not just DO better?! If you know you have issues and insecurities within yourself to resolve, that’s a personal problem, and you need to take some personal time off and find your resolution. It really is that simple.